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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I don't know. Maybe because she did all of those things for him for 20 years? [/quote]

Does that mean she gets to pull the plug on their marriage, for all practical purposes, and he’s just gotta put up with it? For how long? In your mind, he owes her 20 years no matter how she behaves? That’d be a nope from me, anyway. I wouldn’t put up with even one year of that.

[quote]Because he loves her? [/quote]

The way she’s acting, that’s not gonna last long. She clearly doesn’t love him, she has checked out, not even showing affection or friendship, he’d be a fool to keep loving someone like that.

[quote]Because she is his family, and you don't just eliminate your family from your life without good cause? [/quote]

She is deliberately checking out of the family. That in itself is good reason to eliminate her from his life.

[quote]Because one or the other of them might still need or want a companion at some point?[/quote]

Pffft he can go on Tinder and get a better companion than her. Heck, get a dog, a much better companion.[/quote]

She’s not pulling the plug on their marriage.  She wants some time to focus on herself.  OP is the one pulling the plug.  And she isn’t checking out of the family.  Again, that’s OP who suggested divorce the minute his wife implied she might not make dinner for him one night.  
I doubt that he is going to find a dog or a prostitute who wants to, say, go to the hospital to see their first grandchild.

But whatever, I’d he wants to pull the plug on a 20 year marriage when his wife wants to take a little time to herself, then that’s on him.  I hope that he explains to his adult daughters what they “owe” their husbands, daily, without breaks, for the rest of their lives.  
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The OP said his wife is distant, not intimate, considering moving out. Clear conclusion: She is checked out. She is done with him. She has pulled the plug. She is what women would call "emotionally unavailable" as well as sexually unavailable, and (sorry OP) she ain't never coming back. It is unmistakable if you've ever experienced it as a man. Ask me how I know! He didn't say she's given him the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" spiel, but that is surely coming if she hasn't said it already.

If he files for divorce, this would not be him pulling the plug, it would be him [i]acknowledging reality[/i] - the reality that [i]she created[/i].

And OP, sure, you can go ahead and try all the crap that is often suggested on DCUM - marriage counseling, find her love languages, getaways for just the two of you, blah blah blah. Not gonna work though. Make sure you consult divorce attorneys and start getting your ducks in a row, because you are going to be divorced sooner or later. Meanwhile, go to the gym and work out, it's the best therapy there is.
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