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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think.  However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life,[b] but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.  [/b]

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption).  I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me.  I was their good luck charm.  They'd wanted a baby forEVer!  They couldn't believe it.  Tried for years!  YEARS!  So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant.  Can you believe it?  "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.  [/quote]

I am so sorry that happened to you.  You deserved better.  You are right that an agency can stop finalization for a domestic adoption, because in domestic adoption there's a period of time between placement and finalization.

In this case, the adoption was finalized in China, at which point she wasn't pregnant.  [/quote]

Of course it was finalized in China but they had to have a home study and agency here.  Most families also do a readoption in the US to make sure its not an issue with citizenship in the future.  Either way, the point is, these things happen more than people realize.[/quote]

Yes, but the agency can't take custody of the child between adoption and readoption.  It's not the same as the time between placement and finalization in a domestic adoption.  [/quote]

Actually they can and older kids are placed for adoption via private agencies, its rare but it happens.  A private agency, if they have foster homes, can place a child in foster care prior to adoption.  But, this was probably done in a shady way under the table without a home study or agency.  If the kid is lucky, they used a lawyer but otherwise often the kids are just handed over to the new family, no home study, nothing and either a POA or something else.

Or, really the kids should go into government foster care.  [/quote]

I'm not sure, but it seems like we're talking about different things.  A private agency can absolutely take custody of a child that is surrendered by his or her parents, whether birth or adoptive.  But are you saying that if an adoption agency finds out about something that a parent does that may be bad judgement but isn't illegal or abusive, like getting pregnant a year after bringing home a high needs child, that they can remove the child, after finalization, against the parent's will?

I agree with you 100% that there needs to be government and agency oversight into these transfers.  I hope that is what happened here.  [/quote]

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