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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The projection about OPs wife let’s me know that many feel it’s woman’s work to make ANY sacrifice no matter how pointless. [/quote]

Soooooooooooo much this.  OP's wife is actually the only one in the situation who DOES know what they're facing because of her profession, and she's offered her expertise in the past only to have it ignored.  Now they're ignoring her again, but also, plot twist, she's the villain for knowing it's a terrible plan![/quote]

Her "plan" is to sit back and do nothing.  And, worse, she expects her husband to sit back and do nothing to assist his parents.  She is a terrible human being.[/quote]

No, she's saying that what OP is proposing is unsustainable and cannot be done.  She's right.  If OP and his dad get their way, this will take a huge toll on OP's marriage *and* they will only admit they need more comprehensive care when OP's mom gets seriously hurt or lost.  There's no upside to this plan, only downside.[/quote]

Again, little empathy for the process that FIL is going through.  She is looking at this like a "case" but this is her FIL's life.  Instead of offering moral support and solutions to her husband's family she is sitting back and criticizing every damned thing that they do.  She sounds like a superior know it all. No wonder they want nothing to do with her.[/quote]

Something about OP's post is triggering you to superimpose a lot of assumptions.  You're making up new accusations about OP's wife with no basis in fact in every post.  You should go for a walk or something.[/quote]

Yep.  Weirdly enough I saw a situation very similar to this years ago.  When the inevitable divorce happened the biotch even went for her cut of what was left of her husband's parent's money (and, yes, both parents were still alive).  No joke.  You can't make this sh*t up.[/quote]

Stop projecting. Op updated and his wife offered a sensible solution that works for their family. She plans to help on weekends and support with the process of getting the needed care. Still no word though on how the SIL and BIL will help. [/quote]

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