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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have never met a SAHM who cares if anyone else works or not. The number of WOHMs here, however, that invent weird narratives about SAHMs who live pitiful existences and are miserably married is truly remarkable. No one accused you of anything, but the hostile attacks on SAHMs reeks of mom guilt. [/quote]

+1. I see nastiness on both sides, but the vitriol from the working moms is on another level. Thinking sahms are worthless, don’t contribute to society, really? You have to have a deep sense of self hatred and raging jealousy to have such strong feelings about anyone else. [/quote]

Nope, sorry, but you have blinders on.  There is SO much vitriol from stay at home moms who accuse working moms of "abandoning their kids in daycares" and ask why they bothered to have kids at all.  You sound like a fool for blaming one group more than the other.  [/quote]

I have been on both sides and it’s definitely nastier from WOH, 100%. UMC circle though where you don’t get a lot of SAHMs that don’t use housekeeper or preschool, so there’s not much of the “letting other people raise your kids” narrative since most use some form of childcare themselves and see the merits of it. [/quote]

+ 1
I feel a rage in many WOH moms. It ranges from calling SAHMs worthless, submissive, anti-feminists, doormats to accusing them of "riding the gravy train".  There are dire predictions that their DH's will leave them for a working woman, thereby leaving the SAHM and her kids destitute.  Then on other forums they are crying about being devalued at work, being incompetent, having a boss from hell. They cry about hating their husband, sexual dysfunction, being attracted to others and husband cheating. They are unhappy about their messy homes or behaviour problems with their kids. THey are stressed out and bitchy when they have to function on the weekends in any social capacity. They are also very dismissive of other WOHMs - no sympathy for a new WOHM who is trying to pump or breastfeed at work for example.  They are dismissive of other WOHMs who don't make enough money to outsource chores, and they are absolutely nasty to the other WOHMs who are cleaning their homes or looking after their children.

It is just RAGE, RAGE, RAGE...

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I agree. I’ve always wondered why they get so triggered.

Like the PP who said something about meeting her kids at the door every day. It’s been quoted several times. If you are secure in your choice to work, why do you care that she thinks it’s a luxury worth paying for (in forgone she become) to greet her kids at the door?

Really, why do you care? I want to know. And don’t give me any crap about setting a bad example for her kids because that is dumb. Kids grow into adults who do what they want to do.[/quote]

Exactly. I’ve never understood why these miserable women care what other women do, or what those other women’s children do.[/quote]

Because for most of them, it isn’t really a choice.  They’re angry and bitter that they didn’t marry a provider and that they have to sacrifice so much to make ends meet.  They hate seeing that other women made different choices and are thriving, so they insist on cutting them down by claiming that they are miserable or whatever.[/quote]

If thinking like this makes you sleep better at night (as you take a break from your super enriching day of opening the door for your kids and driving them to and from activities) more power to you sweetheart.[/quote]

Does anyone else see how unnecessarily rude and passive aggressive this statement is? Just me?

I don’t understand why people can’t recognize that we all value different things and leave it at that. Nice for you, not for me.[/quote]

It is an unnecessarily rude and passive aggressive response to an unnecessarily rude and aggressive comment (no passiveness in that one).

They both suck.[/quote]

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