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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is how it works on DCUM.

A person experiences a frustrating situation and posts about it. If they post too many details, people immediately leap on them for being obsessed with the situation. If their post is vague, people immediately start questioning whether they are a troll.

In this situation, the OP's son (for whatever reasons) decided to bring a friend on a family vacation and picked someone who the family doesn't know well. The friend did not behave like a gracious guest, appreciative of the (presumably) free beach vacation with someone else's family. Instead, he ate all the food and complained a lot. That sounds like a huge downer.

So OP came here to post about it, and people have been leaping all over her saying that she must be a huge bitch and have treated the kid like crap and why didn't she just say something blah blah blah. Realize that y'all are such uptight pearl clutchers 90% of the time that if she HAD said something to the kid, you would have said that was rude, she was the host and should have just sucked it up because that's what a good host does.

The more she tries to clarify, the more y'all hate her and call her defensive and bitchy. Meanwhile, if she didn't clarify, the narrative would be "OP is clearly a troll, she posted all this and then didn't answer follow up questions."[/quote]

Your summary failed to account for the purposely inflammatory language OP used to describer her guest and his behavior.  THAT is what set people off.[/quote]

Sure, but if you take a stroll through pretty much any thread related to host/guest behavior (or actually any other topic on this forum), you will find that "inflammatory language" can be something as simple as an actual description of the behavior. His behavior sounded pretty entitled and lacking in self-awareness to me. Do you really think that this sounds like a nice kid that OP is lambasting inappropriately? Do you think that she communicated to him the way she communicated here? Do you never voice things differently in different situations to different audiences?

You're just mad that you got outed as an uptight hypocrite.[/quote]

Why am I a hypocrite? I don't refer to my children's friends are obese, gluttonous, people who cause me to lose my appetite, Lenny from Of Mice and Men (for godsake), 3rd tier friend.  [/quote]

Hey I only used Lenny because when he stole my kids shells someone said he was basically a sweet kid who just had a happy vacation and wanted some cute souvenirs to remember it by while I was so awful. They described HIM as a Lenny, like sweet but dim and needing lots of guidance. No. He wasn't. He was a boor. [/quote]

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