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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here- Man you guys are fast. And again, I appreciate the feedback.

I know that I am biased, but my wife is absolutely unreasonable in her deep dislike for my parents. The background on that is nothing special or salacious. My dad has been great and friendly with her, and until not too long ago they had a pretty solid relationship. The issues began between her and my mother. My wife feels my mom has never been kind or friendly or welcoming to her. She just isn’t a very outgoing and friendly person. I think of it more as a personality clash. So my wife has never been fond of my mother (and perhaps my mother has never been fond of wife either?) The real problems began [b]when my wife was pregnant with our first and my mom made some critical comments about what my wife.(what she was eating, being lazy, etc) The biggest offender was a comment about how wife drank alcohol before finding out she was pregnant and that she might have caused some serious deformities or cognitive problems for our baby[/b].. Long story short my mother refused to apologize, denied saying anything offensive and it has snowballed from there. My wife says my mom makes passive aggressive comments to her every time she sees her, and now my dad has started getting involved. [b]The last time we saw them my dad raised his voice at my wife and called her cruel and insensitive.[/b] There have been a number of other very small things crop up but they aren’t worth mentioning for the purposes of this thread.  All of this to me, is just my wife being way over sensitive and because she has never liked my mother, she won’t cut her any slack or give her a break. My parents are good people who love their grandchildren. They are not abusive or dangerous.

I guess I should also add that part of why this situation has become what it is (according to my wife) is because [b]I initially defended my mom over her when the original criticisms were made and continually supported and advocated for my mom and parents throughout her first pregnancy and after.[/b] I would argue that I was advocating for myself and my own perspective. Wife and I probably need some marriage counseling to fully move past this.[/quote]

Your father raised his voice and insulted your wife and you defended him and not her? Your mother called your wife lazy while PREGNANT and refuses to apologize and you think your wife is "unreasonable in her deep dislike"? You the biggest "A" hole if you're not a troll.

You expect your wife to get on a plane -- days before Christmas, arguably the worst travel days of the year -- six weeks after giving birth with her unvaccinated infant and 2-year old for your brother's wedding. Why? Because family is important to you or so you can save face? I suspect it's because you want show off and pretend that you have a perfect family life. In the meantime, your wife will be suffering through it all while you think she's being "unreasonable".

Just know that based on all of your posts, there are dozens, if not hundreds of people who are shaking their heads. Please go to [b]individual therapy[/b] before you drag your long suffering wife to marriage counseling where you will no doubt try to bully her and make her feel small so that you can feel certain that you are right in this and every other instance. Hmm...You may just be my definition of an awful husband.[/quote]

DUDE.  I am very much usually on Team Suck it Up for Family, but these details.  Man.  You and your wife have some serious issues.

I think you can put your foot down and insist on taking the two year old, though you will have ot PAY ATTENTION to your child.  Based on the oblivion's of this update, I do have a hard time imagining it.  I also think you owe your wife a huge apology for not sticking up for her.  Your mom was way out of line.

I would seriously suggest some counseling. Two kids is going ot be rough on your marriage.  Your wife may or may not be a piece of work, I have no idea.  But you clearly have problems with relationships if you think it's ok for your mom to act the way she does towards your wife.  (and now your dad)[/quote]

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