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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking for a little perspective. My brother is getting married 6 weeks after my wife’s due date (toward the end of this year.) We also have a son who will be almost 2 at the time. The wedding is a 3 hour flight away.  I am the best man in the wedding and so will be somewhat busy during the weekend of the wedding with various wedding party obligations. My wife is already saying that she doesn’t think she will be up for traveling 6 weeks after giving birth. She keeps bringing up how she will still be recovering (she had a natural birth with our first and recovered very quickly), she had low milk supply so we supplemented with formula the first time around, probably will do the same with this coming LO, so she is also complaining about having to pack bottles and formula and sterilizing them and pumping to try to get her supply up. I get that it’ll be a lot of work to travel with a 2 year old and a 6 week old. However, I am a little frustrated because people do it all the time. And if it were her sibling getting married I know she would suck it up and go 100%.

Another thing she has mentioned is that she feels like she won’t have much help with the kids at the wedding because I am the best man. I told her I will make sure I am able to help her a lot, and especially my parents will help her but she wasn’t happy about that and in fact doesn’t want their help. She doesn’t like them and that is no secret. So I believe that she is using these excuses to get out of letting my parents see their grandchildren. Either way, I was curious what you all think. Is it reasonable for her to be saying months in advance that she probably won’t be attending my brothers wedding? (Which means my kids won’t get to attend it either? My brother has also invited my son to be the ring bearer but my wife wants me to tell him no. Again, I believe this is to limit my parents access more than anything.)[/quote]

In reality the best man will not be "helping with a 2 yo and infant" while being a best man.

In reality the groom's parents will not be "helping with a 2 yo and infant" while co-sponsoring a wedding.

In reality, the mother of said 2 yo and infant who feeds every 2-3 hours around the clock will have to do everything, pack everything, clean everything, nap everyone, baby everyone, and not enjoy the wedding parties whatsoever.

If you want everyone to go - i.e. all 4 of you - hire a babysitter on location there for $100 a day plus whatever for evenings. Otherwise, let your wife stay home with one kid, or let your wife stay home with 2 kids plus babysitter. [/quote]

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