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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The irony is that the only reason I care about your kids is that I believe if your child is so slow that they need a full year to catch up, they should be seen by a professional. Redshirting parents buckle against that. [/quote]

How do you know they're not being seen by a professional?   In OP's case, they were advised by a professional (the teacher) that the child could benefit from red-shirting.  The school systems (educational professionals) recognize that some children can benefit from an extra year which is why they have an established procedure for redshirting.

Moreover, you don't know if they're seeing a medical doctor, a psychologist, an occupational therapist, speech therapist, etc., and you don't need to know.  Do you distribute your child's medical records to their classmates parents?  Do you survey the other parents to get their approval of your parenting decisions?

Children who are redshirted aren't necessarily "slow", again you don't know why the child is being red-shirted, and it's none of your business.   My child had multiple issues which DC did see various professionals about.  None of these problems had anything to do with her being slow.  Academically DC was significantly ahead, a problem that was compounded by the redshirting.  If DC had started school on time I guess DC would have only been about 3-4 years ahead instead of 4-5.  It was a difficult decision, but we did what we thought was best for our child.  (Incidentally, rather than giving us a competitive advantage, it was something we struggled greatly with over the years.  The last thing I wanted to do was to increase the academic discrepancy between her and her peers.)

As parents, we don't have to agree with each other, and thank goodness we don't have to parent by committee.  I'll bet you're an excellent parent.  I'll also bet that at some point you might make parenting decisions that I would disagree with, especially if I don't have the full picture.
 
I appreciate your concern about red-shirted students being neglected by being deprived of needed care.  Perhaps you could consider that a parent, acting on professional advice, filling out extra forms so that the parent has to arrange an extra year of care before sending the child to school is doing so in an attempt to meet the child's needs.  If a parent were truly neglectful, I don't think they'd go to so much trouble.

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