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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am going to jump in here and give a real life laundry detachment example.

After our fourth was born I told my husband I cannot handle the laundry anymore, could he take it over? Yes he could he said. He did not have much of a choice, I was working, nursing the baby, and cooking the meals. I did not have more time.  He did it his way though. I never said a word about it being done. I took all my special launder clothing to the dry cleaner. I didn't criticize. I let go of the task.

Fast forward 3 years. Laundry was a huge battle, he would wash it, yell at the kids to fold it, they would fight throughout the whole task, the laundry was thrown in draws, socks were lost and everywere, the whole thing was a mess.

One day I bought all four kids and my husband their own basket and decided each person would have their own day and fold their own clothing, most of the laundry frustration was with the sorting and re-pairing of the socks. I started doing this and it worked amazingly, no one fought or complained about folding their own clothes only. Anyway, my husband saw this vastly improved process and bought right in.

I guess the detachment came though when I handed the task over to him and never bitched or micromanaged again. But it did mean we had to have productive discussions about the process and who would do what. [/quote]

But your husband wasn't smart enough to come up with that solution - you still had to figure it out even though he took over the task. :evil: [/quote]

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