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I don't think it is not caring. It is prioritizing yourself while including/being nice to spouse. [b]Like the PP said, I'm making XX for dinner. Oh, you don't want it? [/b]I'm sorry, make yourself ZZ. But this isn't about not caring entirely. I'll make DH's favorites, too. This is about caring for yourself, doing the things you want, inviting your spouse, and allowing them the space to partake. He/she could do this to you, too. DH: I'd like to go bowling, do you want to come?  Regardless of what my answer is, he gets to do what he wants. If I want to go, great, we have  a good time. If I don't, that's OK, he can STILL have a good time.

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You need to lean not to give a fu#k what he thinks about your cooking. I felt this way for a long time but I learned to just not care. Don't like it, I don't care. 
If you made dinner though, it's just rude to say you don't like it or don't want it. That is disrespectful. That actually would hurt my feelings quite a bit. Not that he doesn't like the food but he can't even care enough about me to pretend in order to be courteous and polite?[/quote]

It took my spouse years to stop criticizing dinner I made under the guise of 'discussion' about how it could be 'better.' Just say thank you for making dinner and eat something else. We don't let the children criticize dinner, you should not either. It WAS hurtful to make dinner nightly and only hear how I could have made it better.

The thing is, I do care, and I DO want my family to like and eat the dinners I cook. I would like everybody to enjoy dinner together. I try to make dinners that people will like. But, with a family you cannot please everybody all of the time, so learning to just appreciate the fact that I actually COOKED DINNER would be nice. And modeling that for the children.

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