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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again- Red shirting spring birthdays in our area is becoming increasingly common- or at least it seems to me.
The mom that caused me to write the OP is "looking" now at gifted programs for her son because our school isn't challenging him.  She's very quick to point out that her son has a genius IQ.[/quote]

Could you imagine the poor teachers who have to deal with this obnoxious person?  Red-shirting parents are the worst combo of helicoptering and tiger.  [/quote]

You know what's obnoxious?  Judging and imaging that you know what's going on with this kid and this family.  You don't like the mom and how she talks, I get it.  You're inordinately threatened by a kid who has a higher IQ than your kid and might outperform them on tests, I get it.  What you are NOT seeing is the concerns about focus, social-emotional skills, developmental issues perhaps due to prematurity, that can all lead to redshirting even when the child has excellent cognitive skills.  Often times developmental issues are almost defined by radical uneveness in skill developments -- like advanced language and cognition, but very delayed motor skills and poor impulse control.  Is redshirting the right solution for these kinds of kids in the long term?  I don't pretend to know.  But I can hardly blame parents for redshirting at a young age, [b]when success in the classroom is so heavily defined these days by social skills, behavioral control, and fine-motor skills, as opposed to pure cognitive and language skills. [/quote][/b]

Most of those things will not improve repeating another year of standard preschool with younger peers.  The problem is most families do not let their kids climb, play, and socialize (and make mistakes) on their own.  They follow them around the playground, initiate and control playdates, decisions and step in on any possible fights.   They give tablets more often than fine motor toys.  You might want to read up on Peter Gray and the Freedom to Learn.  Most parents, not just those that redshirt, need to wake-up and realize that they are ruining their kid's fine motor, social and behavioral skills.  It starts as early as infants being propped up in chairs and saucers instead of on their bellies.   [/quote]

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