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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the criticism and time management stuff from the sahms is fair. But if your kid is in daycare or you have a nanny, why are you even responding? You've never done it and you can't go back in time and do it.  Why is their daily laundry? Well, maybe at your house, laundry isn't done every day, because your nanny is doing your laundry for your child  on an as needed basis. In my house, I feed my child between 4 to 5 times per day, and pretty much after every feeding, he needs a change of clothes. Because he's a young child, and he's messy. Combined to that to your husband's daily clothes, my daily clothes, whatever sheets need to be changed out, whatever towels, hand towels, and kitchen towels need to be changed out, and I do a small to medium sized load of laundry every day, even for my small family.  Why isn't your dishwasher full at night? Because your child is being fed a daycare. All of the prep for the child's meals, the meals that you eat, the meals that your child eats, none of those dishes are generated at home. Like I said, I think that the stay at home moms have relevant criticisms. If you have outsourced your child care to a nanny, or to a daycare, you simply don't have any idea what you're talking about.[/quote]

But the point is.. These things don't equate to a day's worth of work. I WAH and can easily manage this before work, or in literally a few minutes during the day. It takes a minute or two to wipe down a bathroom and swish the toilets.clean counters are clean, so a quick wiped own is generally all that's needed.  I have A dog that poops her bed at night and can STILL manage several loads of laundry a day without it stressing me out. Dishes are done before work. So is showering, etc. I eat at home, plus make all other meals that need to go elsewhere that day (lunches, etc.) plus my own food for home.

Even so.. Let's call things as they are. Laundry is not a huge undertaking. I often end up with 5-6 loads a day and it does not break my labour budget. It literally takes a few moments to flip loads. Folding takes longer, but it can also wait. Dishes are not magic. Most kitchens have the cupboards above the dishwasher.. So basically you flip stuff up to the cupboard. What does it take if you actually time it? 2 minutes? Same with loading.

If your child needs a change of clothes after every feeding, five times a day, use a bib or tea towel. You are being a masochist and / or wasteful.

I make dinner every night. Sometimes I have a half hour to spare. Some times I don't. So learn how to make meals for time crunches. I can pp together a slow cooker meal with clients on the phone.. I imagine OP can do that with baby playing with pots in the kitchen. I preload my washer at night. I do things to make life more you fight things, the longer they take and the harder they seem.

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And? Nobody is saying that this equates to a days worth of work. You forgot about taking care of the child. [/quote]

I actually just laughed so hard I snorted some coffee.
I was thinking the exact same thing!
The big thing people who don't take care of their kids all day don't get is how dirty and messy the house gets
(And I will say I'm one of Jose who makes dinner every night and doesn't find it difficult with 2 toddlers but I've been doing it for awhile)
The things that take up the most time due to frequency:
Boys use 2 bathrooms and have poor aim. Lots of wiping up floor and seat.
They eat 5x per day between meals and snacks. It's not only prep and cleaning dishes, but the actual mess and crumbs from a 21/2 year old eating. You should see my floor and table when he's done. It will improve as his fine motor improves but for now, lots of mess.
They play in the bedrooms, playroom, family room and outside. In and out of the house, toys being brought up and down stairs, etc. I have them clean up but they need oversight and assistance as toddlers.
People who don't have to serve and clean up 5 meals, and deal with the play dough, markers hous and piece Lego spills, mud puddle step ins and the like don't get it, as seen clearly above by the woman who thinks throwing laundry in and preparing food to be eaten elsewhere is comparable.
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Okay pp, I've been a Sahm so I know what you're talking about. But right now the op has one kid who is 12 months. At this age the kid isn't nursing or bottle feeding on demand, so it's not like hours stuck on the couch like the newborn stage. He's also not old enough to have free range of the house. So the mess is contained to one or two rooms. 2 toddlers/preschool aged kids is a whole other story. I'm guessing that if the op has another she will look back on this time and wonder what she did with all her free time!

And yeah, my dh hated his job and still went every day because we needed the money (at that point in my career I would have earned less than daycare so it made sense for me to stay home). Adults do what they have to do even if they hate it. Op needs to suck it up and cook some dinner. The fact that she's still refusing is hilarious to me. What an entitled brat. [/quote]

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