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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am as old school WASPy as they come and I am starting to come around on this issue. Stuff is cheap and easy, a downpayment on a house or helping a couple's kid to attend college is the hard stuff. I have come down  off my high horse on this, though my engraved monogrammed genes are making it hard.

But these days, it does make a lot of sense.[/quote]

I'm with you - I especially liked the responses here "if I got the no boxed gifts invitations I would go buy a toaster and put it in a bag and shove it their uncultured assses"  :mrgreen: Really, people, really? You want to spend your money AND your time AND your effort? Oh, please, you are just too gerenous!

The whole gift-giving tradition definitely has real historical reasons - yes, there was a time in America when "things" were expensive and valuable and even not so easy to obtain. But this time is not now. Now is actually the opposite of that - how many treads on DCUM bemoan "too much stuff/too much clutter/how do I simplify"? I wonder if they come from the same people who are outraged at the "no boxed gifts" suggestion?  :roll:

And I have a funny personal wedding gift story - we were young and had a very informal wedding, didn't expect any gifts but were grateful for every single one (we really had nothing and we actually used that toaster oven :) All of those things are long gone (how many people still use the toaster oven from decades ago?), but only one gift still remains (and I hope I'll have it to the day I die  :-) )

One of our friends of Asian heritage gave us a vase with "flowers" in it - and all the "flowers" were made by her out of one dollar bills. 
I never counted how many dollar bills are actually there but my guess is about $50 (a lot of money to us back then). Not sure about the real cultural background of the gift but I think it is just one of the culturally acceptable ways of giving money but in a "cute way" and with "personal touch" (it probably took her several hours to make all those "flowers", so not as easy as just writing a check). 
Most likely we were expected to use it as money but after the wedding we decided not to touch our "money flowers" and agreed to use the money only if were ever really really needed it along the way - and although we came close on a couple of occasions, but the money bouquet is still intact. 20+ years later. Looking at it right now. The BEST wedding gift I ever got.    
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