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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Are you really saying you'd rather remain married to someone who is "incredibly difficult"? I can't believe you are advocating staying married to a person like that just to avoid personal upheaval. Would you give the same advice to a battered woman? Stay or your quality of life will suffer?

Why is there such a lack of respect for men? Why are men expected to be donkeys whose job is to pull the load quietly and shit out some money at regular intervals?[/quote]

Under this fact pattern? Where OP clearly loves his wife and his wife clearly is in some sort of professional funk that resulted in her choosing to be a SAHM even though it isn't a good fit. Even though OP wasn't really consulted here?

Yeah. The bet that the wife will pull it together is a better risk than starting over, particularly when someone still cares for their spouse. It's the whole "for worse" part of wedding vows. The wife is clearly not in a good place. It's good of OP to be the bigger person. Someone has to or the marriage would obviously fall apart.

I'm the divorced PP in a condo. I have to say if I could do it over again, I'd have made different choices more along the lines of OP's. It would have been better for everyone.[/quote]
If you want the wife to pull it together, you can't simply bet on it by crossing your fingers. You have to define your expectations, often and loudly.  People choose paths that are most comfortable for them. Why would his wife move away from the current arrangement, where she doesn't have to cook or clean, or communicate legibly about her feelings and plans? It's a great gig, dude. Simply stop working. Do as little as you can get away with.  When questioned, cry. Why change if no one demands it? The husband seemingly decided to just take it. Why change?[/quote]

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