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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's awesome, OP. I would sit down with your wife and tell her your thoughts on feeling "forced" into working, and explain how you feel there should have been a conversation. Don't be passive aggressive or dramatic. I would also really carefully think through what you want. As you said, wanting your wife to work although there is no financial benefit right now simply because you find it more attractive and you feel your kids need more structure may be entirely outweighed by the happiness of your wife and children. You also can't  make unilateral decisions about what is best for the kids, it needs to be a discussion. Best of luck to you. [/quote]

I agree with this.  Family life is not set in stone.  We all make changes and adjust our arrangements (and expectations) many times along the way.  I applaud OP's decision to make this work as-is right now, but think it is important for OP to convey this decision (proactive decision) to his wife.  In that conversation, OP could tell his wife that he accepts this arrangement at this time, but that going forward they need to have ongoing discussions about their work/life decisions, and that they need to work as a partnership.  Together.

Best of luck, OP.[/quote]

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