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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Nonetheless, I do think the gender role expectations are somewhat different in the Black Community than it is in mine, and I'd want to be sure that my dd wasn't going out with a guy who had different values about how we treat women than I do. Frankly, I do think I'm more likely to encounter that with a young black boy today than I am from an Indian boy whose parents are fresh off the boat."

AA, mixed, for professional reasons knows many, many people from India. Wrong, PP, sorry.

And also, look at how many black women are in college vs black men. There are more women. So no, I would say that your perceptions are a bit off. You need to turn off Real Housewives of Atlanta, sweetie. Most educated AAs have very contemporary, normal, American lives and women are not at home, barefoot in the kitchen with 5 kids, responding to "ho get my beer."[/quote]

That's probably true. But unless DD has some preferences she hasn't yet revealed to me, she's not going to be dating those black women in college, is she? I'm not really sure what it says about the fact that most of her black male peers aren't going to college, but that doesn't really sway me to change my mind. She wants to date a college-bound black boy? I'm totally cool with that; the issues about gender role expectations are totally different between the Black community and an Muslim community. It would totally depend on the circumstance.

Let's not forget I was trying to explain what I saw as a possible rationale for another poster's response. I think you'd be hard pressed to argue that the record for African Americans on women's rights lags that of white people. Read Maya Angelou or bell hooks sometime.[/quote]

I am the PP to whom you are responding. I have read hooks and angelou and many more critiques of gender relationships within and outside of the AA race. You are referencing women born in the 20s and 50s. If I were to take the writings of Virginia Woolf and apply them to your life, would they be entirely accurate? You know nothing about black people other than what you have read and seen through media and your mis-education is entirely why I am okay with you sticking to your race and letting my son know what waits for him if he crosses the color line. He can date white girls but your attitude is what waits for him on the other side.

My point in saying that more AA women are enrolled in college than AA men is that similarly, women in general have surpassed men in holding undergraduate degrees. Things have changed and obviously AA women have a different sense of their roles. I think AA men in large see women as equal, as many American white males do. So no, I am not hard pressed to find arguments that there is a great deal of gender equality amongst AA males and females. Btw, you WILL let your daughter date a latino; latinos have by far the highest incidences of domestic abuse against women and children. Your rationale its poorly constructed and not well researched.

Just admit that Blacks are not your flavor and that you, yourself, are stuck in the past. Stay in your corner bc those of us who actually seek a better world for our children do not want you and your bigoted spawn in it.

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So, you'd let your daughter date a gangbanger? If not, you're a bigot too.

Fuck you, by the way.[/quote]

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