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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think so. Pump if you want. Sounds like you do t want to. It’s not reasonable to bring a 3 month old to a nice, small, private dinner. [/quote]

If this 3 month old is 100% breastfed do you have ANY idea how uncomfortable this dinner will be for the Mom? Painful. I would go to the 15 person dinner and have my husband watch the baby in a very nearby hotel so that I could excuse myself to breastfeed as needed. Skip Europe.[/quote]

What in the world? Breastfeeding moms can eat in a restaurant without the baby for a dinner. And a hotel? OP lives locally to this wedding. [/quote]

Local doesn't mean next door necessarily.[/quote]

Right- you need to consider the transit time, etc.  I would expect a wedding celebration dinner like this to go at least 2-3 hrs, this isn't a run of the mill dinner.  Those first couple months of nursing were tough for me on several levels and I definitely had a couple situations where I did a "drive by" without the baby because staying longer wasn't in the cards.

But I wouldn't expect a childless couple to know this and would just say you're a "maybe" for now and will assess closer to the date.[/quote]

How many 15 person wedding celebration dinners have you been to?[/quote]

I've been to a couple small weddings actually, can't remember how many people exactly but in the 15-25 guest count.  Was there another question?[/quote]

No, I just think you have an overactive imagination. Because clearly if a dinner is 2-3 hours long it's completely inappropriate for a newborn and toddler. Which you would know if you've been to such a dinner and are a real parent.[/quote]

NP. Do you even remember having a 3 month old? I brought mine to a wedding actually. I nursed under a cover and then the baby slept in her stroller the entire night. In fact, dh and I used to go out to dinner nonstop at this stage because babies are so easy to travel with. 1 year olds are awful though.[/quote]

What part of no kids do you not understand? Make other arrangements? That means no hidden babies under covers if that's what the hosts asked of you. This isn't that hard.[/quote]

I would 100% rather a new mom ask if she could bring the baby than not come at all.  Maybe there is a specific reason that an immobile baby can't come, like a no breastfeeding rule at the restaurant or strict noise limits or something.  But before I had kids myself, I really didn't think about or understand how feeding an infant even works.  Brother could say yes or no, it isn't hard to provide a response and it also isn't hard to show a little compassion and understanding.  Oh wait I guess for some people the latter is hard but for most normal people it isn't.[/quote]

Nobody is normal here. But the brother doesn't like OP and the mother told her not to bring the baby. Whether or not OP likes that is irrelevant.[/quote]

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