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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After multiple failed attempts trying to reach my son to clean after himself, cook and do laundry I now use a different approach. He’s studying doing well in his field. He’s ordering his laundry twice a month pick up/drop off from Poplin directly to his college dorm. A cleaning lady comes once a month to make up his unit and place clothing scattered on the floor back in the wardrobe. He only eats outside dorm.

My mother-son relationship has improved tremendously after I switched to outsourcing and stopped nagging him. He can also see how much in real terms these services cost and can plan his future earnings around it.

I guess if a man is making decent income and has a working wife nobody should be shouldering housekeeping that can be outsourced. I know families that have house assistant to help  navigate through this.

Spouses need to find workable solutions and perhaps accept that some socks will always be on the floor….

My son is smart talented and hard working but on ASD spectrum so he can’t learn these skills [/quote]

We (I) outsource and it's still a lot: someone has to schedule the kids activities, make sure they have all their clothes and gear, schedule the nanny, be available for the nanny's sick days, have dinner and put the kids to bed (this may sound silly, but some of us don't believe our children should have a nanny put them to bed everynight), make the kids breakfast, get them dressed, and pack their lunches, prepare the house for the cleaners to arrive (I wake up at 430 am on the day our cleaner comes each week to start the sheets in the wash), hire the nanny and oversee her schedule and her issues, hire the cleaner, manage their schedule and what needs to be done and pay their bills, hire the landscaper, order the online groceries and put them away, attend the kids' events like games, theater, recitals,  plan the vacations, renew the passports, schedule the doctors and dentists appointments, buy the birthday presents, go to the parent/teacher conferences, schedule playdates, find and manage the tutor, figure out which soccer team is the best fit and organize all that comes with it.

People who think that outsourcing is a simple solution for an overworked parent in a two-income family have never been an overworked parent in a two-income family doing all the outsourcing work, and all the other work that can't (or shouldn't) be outsourced on top of a full-time job.  Almost anyone in this position will become very resentful.  [/quote]

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