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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im curious do you guys have kids? That's one thing that has always not made sense to me is the people who do this that have children. If you dont have kids do whatever you want, but with kids it seems like a questionable decision.[/quote]

Yes, we have kids. But, we are more than parents. I didn't lose my identity when I became a parent, and they have no idea what we do when they're not around. We also don't share our IRA balances, concerns about our parent's health, or details about work with our kids. All parents have a multitude that they keep to themselves.

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Hmm that must be a white people thing. Asians usually share more information with their kids. All of my asian friends know their parents salaries, retirement account balances, parents and grandparents medical history, medications they are taking. White people have a very different sense of privacy and independence. [/quote]

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Since you brought up the whole “privacy” thing in this thread (and, the thread is really about OP’s visit to this particular club), one thing has really been bothering me about it.  The OP said in like 2 responses, that the club had these private rooms where a couple could do “it,” but then the room had a window, so (if I’m understanding her), others could watch?

Is that really how it was??  And how is that in any way attractive to anyone???  What do they get out of it?

Maybe OP or somebody else can respond to this.[/quote]

Most clubs have some rooms with windows for others to watch. Or Windows that have shades that can be drawn. The lifestyle is about choice. There are many rules and boundaries based on choice.

No one is forcing themselves on others. Couples can choose to be alone, seen, be with others, or be seen with others. Boundaries are respected much more in these clubs than your typical night club.

Due to the nature of the lifestyle it is tight and protective. Club goers and owners communicate. Bad actors get known quickly and blocked.

Clubs check IDs with sex offender and criminal databases. Partly why they require "membership". Does your local bar or club do that?  Does Tinder?  Did you run background check on your last date?

The OP was clearly trying to break down the barriers for those interested, not looking for those with pre-established biases to try and hi-jack an effort to inform the broader community.

As I got involved years ago, I was shocked by the broad range of people in the community within the lifestyle. From all backgrounds and socio-economic levels. And that doesn't matter to most in the lifestyle. We are happy with our choice, and happy with yours. It's about choice and free will.[/quote]

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