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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is waiting tables this summer, and gets hit on/ asked for her number. It makes her really uncomfortable. And she says it wrecks her focus and she doesn't feel like she does as good a job after one of these incidents. Of course I've told her it gets better with practice (ugh) and that this is just part of being in the world, but I still hate it for her.

I was a waitress at her age too, and remember lots of inappropriate men but I was pretty bold at that age and it didn't ruin my day the way it does hers. She and I have very different personalities. I once dumped a pitcher of ice water on a guy who patted my butt. She would shrivel up and die if someone did that to her.

I'd love some ideas on how she can respond to them, and for reframing these interactions for her. [/quote]

Tell her to politely say "no thanks" or ignore as appropriate. If it gets out of hand, she needs to talk with her boss. It can be difficult, but she will need to learn how to handle herself. Turn someone down politely, then be blunt, then escalate as needed.

If anyone touches her, becomes verbally inappropriate, or doesn't take a direct "no" for an answer- that's the time to escalate. Once your DD becomes more confident and learns how to effectively deal with these situations, it will stop ruining her day. [/quote]

This is the best response here.  I do recommend running lines with her a bit just so she has them ready to go.  This is only bothering her because it’s new to her.  Once you get ckmfortable saying “no” it’s actually pretty easy to do!  [/quote]

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