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[quote=Anonymous]I do think that there has been a substantial in the male/female dynamic, accelerating in the last 10 years.  Women on average not just outpacing men in college attendance and graduation (as has been the case for some time now), but becoming accustomed to it as a norm.  Especially the younger women I know, are also more accustomed to forming their own networks and professional connections and communities (co-ed and single sex) and are no longer striving to join the "men's club" so to speak.  And socially, younger women are less interested in marrying, and more likely to initiate divorce.  Most notable to me, though, is that almost none of the widowed and divorced women I know have any interest in remarrying (or for the most part even being in serious romantic relationships). These are active, social, smart, successful women, many of whom had been married long-term and raised kids.  It doesn't seem to be some strident statement or anti-man sentiment or focus.  Instead, there are just others relationships and activities these women want to dedicate their time to, whether friends, extended family or new passions.  It's so different from when I was younger as I remember several of my mom's friends (who were professionally successful women for the time and financially secure) pretty actively seeking out a second husband, and the conversations re-marrying was the goal.  Now it feels more like the women later in life are finding men to be more of a hassle and burden than a goal.  Of course this isn't always the case but it feels like a big shift. If I were a man, I might be wondering whose going to take care of me in my old age (because less and less likely your current or a future wife).  I can see all of this being quite unsettling, especially for men raised to believe they were the focal point and lead of the family (socially and financially) and are now seen as almost superfluous at times.  Lots of generalizations, I know, but it seems the direction of travel. [/quote]

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