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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend told me my first dh was cheating on me. She was privy to the information because my ex used her and her dh as his alibi. We were all friends. I was SO GRATEFUL to this woman for having the balls to call me and tell me something I had actually suspected. I was lied to and gaslit by my ex. My df did me a huge favor. Decades later I am still glad she told me. She said she did not want to be complicit in the lie.[/quote]

But she was your friend. She told you out of concern for you, not for her own revenge or need to make things like pain equal. Their marriage was blown up, so in her mind, yours should too *because the sectet*. The secret is over already. [/quote]

So what if I want revenge? Doesn't the other woman deserve it? She inserted herself in my life and deserves to have hers blown up like she did mine. And her husband deserves to know what she is up to. [/quote]
I think you’re confused. If you want “revenge”, it’s your DH you take revenge upon. This woman isn’t great but your DH is 100% responsible for cheating. [/quote]

This is simply not the case.  If someone knowingly sleeps with your spouse, you have a legitimate grievance against them too.  That’s not to say what to do about it, but to pretend that person has not done you wrong is insane and silly.  [/quote]

And these women APs stalk the wife w/out her knowledge.  They work against her with the info they glean.  They wish her harm or that the spouse will leave her.  This is why when they post here acting so noble and blast a betrayed spouse for sending an email to their spouse with the facts, nothing more or less, it is so insane. [/quote]

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