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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The reality is this show could have been made with any religious or cultural or racial groups.

I observed the following IRL:

-Chinese friend’s entire family didn’t attend her wedding because they were outraged that she was marrying a non-Chinese man. Same religion, same advanced level of education, and the guy is awesome on all levels. Didn’t matter. Pretty sure we’ve seen movies about how this plays out in Asian culture, right?

-A white friend’s family threatened to cut her off when she got engaged to a black man. His family wasn’t any better: his family was blatantly hostile to her the first time he brought her to a family party. She wasn’t deterred despite leaving in tears. She kept showing up and being kind, and they eventually came around. Ditto for her family.

-A Muslim friend’s family did cut her off (stopped paying her tuition) when she got engaged to a catholic white American. She was American too btw—despite her American-born parents considering themselves as “Insert other Muslim country here.” That marriage was a disaster thanks to the unwillingness of her family to accept him. She caved eventually and her parents rewarded her with a new life in another city: fancy new place, new wardrobe, new car, etc.

I could go on, but I’ll stop here. As a shiksa whose future MIL enlisted the help of relatives to try to dissuade us from marrying (I won’t say how, but it was heavily orchestrated and blatant), [b]I chalk it up to loss of control and fear of the unknown that some rigid older women have. It’s a thing, which is why the evil MIL stereotypes exist in every culture, etc.[/b] [/quote]

Wow.  I gently offer to you another explanation: since her son has married someone non-Jewish she literally will not have Jewish grandchildren. I’m not saying that it’s right to put pressure on your kids; it certainly isn’t. But it’s not very mysterious why she felt this way. It’s actually a huge, huge cultural loss. Hopefully realizing that can lead you towards some compassion. [/quote]

One could argue that any time people from two backgrounds procreate, there is always some “dilution.” Framing such unions as loss reflects a world view that we should continue to separate into tribes, vs move forward as one species (ie, humans).

Jews could also question the old notion that their religion can only be passed through the mother. This belief is not embraced by most religions. It probably stems from the fact that in the past, only maternity could be confirmed (not paternity). Or maybe it is based upon women traditionally raising children. Either way, a people can evolve with the times.[/quote]

One could certainly argue those things. Or one could recognize that giving an ethnic group helpful hints on how to “evolve” and modernize their 4000 year old cultural traditions is a bit clueless and white-missionary-esque.[/quote]

I was but telling another group of people what to do.

I was offering counterpoints to the poster who defended guilting kids into marrying within their religion, so as not to make their tribe go extinct.

Other faith traditions allow intermarriage, without disappearing. [/quote]

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