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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP maybe you’ve failed to make parenthood look desirable. Right now, the pervasive cultural message is that parenting is not worth it. It’s portrayed as purely an endless slog with few rewards, with kids being expensive but providing nothing in return. This is compounded by messaging that it’s unethical to even have children due to environmental and political concerns.

Were your kids constantly exposed to this kind of messaging growing up? Did you seem happy to be a parent? Or did they just see sacrifice? Kids will notice if their parents are not enjoying parenting or if they are making disproportionate sacrifices for their kids. This understandably turns lots off parenting. In previous generations kids saw all this but opting out of kids wasn’t a social possibility. Of you want your kids to want kids, you need to demonstrate the value of parenting.[/quote]

oh please. previous generations had kids because, um, there was not effective birth control and women couldn’t say no.

you know who is opting out? women. because they see that parenting falls heaviest on women.

if you want to change this then look to the MEN. [/quote]

Well ummm the pill has been around for 60 years so….. not sure your first statement holds Betty Friedan.

I think Millennials held out too long to be honest. They were told by boomer parents to focus on careers and now they are 35 with dwindling options.

I think GenZ will have different priorities about work v life. Most are still in college so we will see but I think mental health relationships partnerships matter more to GenZ so I wouldn’t be surprised if they get married at higher numbers and have families at higher rates than the Millennials are/did.

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