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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

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Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips. 
[b]I'm so jealous. [/b]
They really have the perfect set up. [/quote]

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

[b]I'm. So. Jealous. [/b]

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).  
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.  
2.  Those who feel bitter & resentful because [i]they'll[/i] never receive those same privileges [i]AND[/i] 
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself. [/quote]

NP. I think you should take your own advice.

Envy/jealousy is not a "trait." It's a normal human emotion that is incredibly common. The PP you are quoting is a mentally healthy person experiencing a very normal thing-- someone she knows has some extremely valuable and beneficial things PP wishes she had. That's it. It happens to everyone, and is not a moral failing.

OP and others in this thread are experiencing that SUPER NORMAL felling regarding housing. This is totally unsurprising because we live on n an area with really expensive housing.

The takeaway here is not that people who feel this way are bad people who need your lessons in how to act or feel (also, I hope you can recognize the irony in telling people to focus on themselves and mind their own business while we're going in on the merit of their thoughts and feelings).

The take away is that being very fortunate, especially financially, is likely to involve jealousy. The end. It's just the reality and trade off to having a lot. There is no read n to freak out about it.

I'd still rather have a lot of money or a nice house (knowing friends and neighbors might envy me) so it's a tradeoff I'm happy with. Demanding that everyone be happy for you that you have so much more than them is deranged. And some people actually will be happy for you (while also feeling jealous). Humans are complex. But melting down over the idea that envy exists is so weird. Who cares? I 100% guarantee you feel envy sometimes too, you just won't admit it.[/quote]

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