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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's equally reckless to delay dating and parenthood. What if you run out of time before you meet the right person?

I'm really not sure why you can't go on, say, one date every two weeks just to get started and practice relationship skills. FIRE women won't be expecting you to spend much.

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Dating is expensive (both in terms of money and time)!  The guys I know that are successful at it treat it like a part-time job.

Also, I think it’s going to be very difficult, if I do find the right person, to say, “Hey, I like you a lot.  Let’s put a pin in this for five years—or tread water until then—and then we can move forward with our lives.”  I think it just makes more sense to date when I can really commit to someone.[/quote]

If you find the right person you can cut a lot of costs by moving in together. It can actually accelerate your FIRE.

[b]It's really important that you develop some relationship skills. Your plan to go from zero to marriage at age 38 with no dating experience is unrealistic.[/b] It will be a red flag to your potential dates.

"I'm unemployed and have nothing to do but obsess about our relationship" is creepy and will put people off. It's not a good feeling to be the only activity in someone's life. It's a lot of pressure and it's not going to be a healthy relationship. [/quote]

Jesus, I’m not a socially-inept autist who has “no dating experience” and needs to “develop some relationship skills.”  I had a girlfriend in college.  I didn’t date after college when I moved in with my parents (logistics were untenable), and by the time I bought my condo, I was fully immersed in savings mode and was not interested in dating. However, I have slept with two women in my building (I’m not sure why I have to get into that, but you all have taken a thread in the money forum in a completely different direction than intended.)

You guys are misattributing all sorts of characteristics to me when the truth is just that I have a laser-like focus on getting to $2 million and therefore everything else has taken a backseat.  And yes, I understand there could be some potential savings from moving in with a girlfriend.  But that would involve a huge life shift and I just don’t want to rock the boat in any way or potentially break anything right now.  My job appears stable, and I have a pathway to achieving nirvana within 4-5 years—while, as I stated in the OP, I am starting to get restless, five years still seems a reasonable amount of time to defer gratification for this end.[/quote]

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