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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never thought I would be the type of woman recovering from an emotional affair.  I love my family but somehow got in way over my head.  Now that the fog has lifted, I truly feel sorry for his wife.

He is angry at me for ending our "friendship".  His anger has turned toxic and much like he would defame his wife behind her back, he is now defaming me.  Gave me a good taste of what she has put up with for 14 years.  I think in a way he wanted me to lash out and create a scene.  He must have known I could hear what he was saying to a co-worker about me and I would put two and two together when his wife called and hung up.  He was an abused child so something deep inside tells me he craves the drama and needs the ego boost because he is hurting inside.  I however, went away quietly.

If it helps him to recover or helps his wife through the fall out, let people think what they want about me.  I think his wife would be more hurt by the truth.  Hearing him lash out against me did do me a favor though.  It gave me complete closure because all the fantasy was washed away and I could see him for the child that he really is.   
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[b]Are you married too?[/b] [/quote]

Yes, I am married.

I ended all contact with the other man when he began to make physical advances.  It made me realize what the hell was I doing.  I then began pouring the emotional energy I was feeding to the affair back into my marriage.  My husband is a good man, a good father, and a good husband.  I am working on me so I can be the wife he deserves.[/quote]

Curious as to how long the emotional affair lasted before he began to make advances? [/quote]

The whole thing from beginning to end was about 6 months.  Hard to say exactly when a magic line was crossed.  Friendship became flirtatious over time.  First were subtle remarks that I dismissed so he would back off and change the subject.  After a while though, I flirted back and justified everything was ok because we were just talking.  My conscience began to bother me though and I was looking forward way too much to our time together.  I ended it when he moved to trying something physical so that was at the 6 month mark.[/quote]

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