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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dare the wife to call me and actually stay on the phone long enough to talk.  She hung up when I answered the one and only time she called.  I would love to tell her what her husband is saying to women about her.

Part of me thinks she should know.  Part of me thinks she knows already and just doesn't want the confirmation.  Part of me thinks, what the hell do I care.  I am so yesterday's news and he has already moved on to someone else.  She just doesn't know yet.[/quote]

What does he say about his wife?
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He's a complete troll.  Very manipulative and a very skilled liar.  God, I was so stupid to fall for his f-ing mind games.  Never, ever, ever again.  I'm positive now his wife is probably none of these things and that he is a sociopath or maybe they both have their crazy issues.

He initially used his kids as bait.  Said she was a bad mother and he was basically filling all the parenting roles.  Example:  She did not get home from work till 8pm.  She did not spend time with kids after she got home from work.  He dropped off and picked up the kids from daycare, fed them, bathed them, got up with them during the night, took them to the doctor's, etc.  Sounded a lot like my women friends who complain that their DH's don't help enough at home so I talked to him and gave him advice initially like he was a woman friend.

It moved on to he did most of the housework because "she was dirty".  Left food on the dishes when she washed them.  Had his mom come time to time to help out and even she would comment what a bad wife his wife was because she did not take care of the house.

From there it moved on to they would have huge arguments.  Mostly verbal but sometimes they would throw things.  Said she was a drama queen and thrived on contention.  Gave me an impression was that it was a horrendous environment for the kids to be in.

Next he began saying he was looking into separating and eventually divorcing his wife (yeah I know, the biggest lie in the book).  He did not love her and had never wanted to get married.  He was only in the marriage because of the kids.  He asked me on advice about the divorce process.

You may ask why would I fall for some crazy guy who complains about his wife?  Conversations were stretched out over a lengthy period of time with other topics thrown it.  Once he set himself up in a place I genuinely felt sorry for him, he began asking if most marriages were like his.  I first gave him some details about my friends then he wanted particulars about how I managed the household.  He complemented me on how great a mother I was and how I did a great job taking care of my family.  He then moved onto other complements about my physical appearance and that I was great listener.  I began to like the attention he gave me and it was very addictive.

Blinders eventually came off and I saw he truly enjoyed messing with people and creating drama himself.  He was only in to me for the thrill of the chase.  Probably was also using me as a way to torture his wife because he was surprisingly indiscreet almost to the point he wanted her to know.  She somehow quickly had my number.  Hung up though when I answered the phone.  
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