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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have girls (14, 16) and I purchase condoms and leave them in the bathroom under the counter. They should always have 2 on them. Give them to friends too. It shouldn’t be just the guy’s responsibility. They also carry Narcan. [b]Does that mean I am ok with them being around drugs?[/b][/quote]

I mean, yes, it does. What do you think it means?[/quote]

You're crazy. I've shown my goody-two-shoes kids how to administer Narcan if they should ever be in that position as well as telling them how to do CPR and use a defibrillator. It's that kind of world now.
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Do you have nicotine patches in case they get hooked on cigarettes or tobacco vapes and need them?

Do you have suboxone just in case they become addicted to opioids?

If yes, then your logic with condoms and Narcan is consistent.

If not, ask yourself why you’re stocking condoms and Narcan, even though you insist you’re not encouraging adolescent sex and drug use, just in case but not those other items, just in case.[/quote]

You don't get the situation out there. I don't have too much experience with the condom issue but it is irresponsible for you to pontify about Narcan. Sounds like you are one of those 60 year olds who like to post on this forum or a mom of a little kid, you seem so out of touch. 
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Try again. I have a 16 year old son. My stance on sex and drugs is clear. We’ve had a lot of conversations with him about why we hold those stances and our expectations of him.

[b]If he chooses to disobey and deviate from that despite that understanding, then that is his choice and the consequences are on him.[/b] But he can’t say he made those choices because he thought it was ok with us.

By supplying your kids with a steady supply of condoms and Narcan, you ARE normalizing that behavior, whether you want to acknowledge that or not.[/quote]

So your that mom. Yes, I've heard you mention this. We make different parenting choices.
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And you're THAT parent, who breathlessly insists that they AREN'T encouraging their kids to have sex and do drugs while steadily refreshing the condom and Narcan supply without question. For some reason, THAT makes sense to you.[/quote]

It makes sense to more than one of us. If you want to tell your kid “don’t have sex”, and then let the chips fall where they may when he does, have at it. I have managed to tell both of my kids that they’re not ready for sex, but [b]when the time comes I will help them do it safely[/b]. If you think this is encouraging them, you don’t get the subtle nuances of the conversation.  There is zero encouragement to go out and have sex. ZERO. [/quote]

Yes. This is PRECISELY where our parenting paths diverge. There is no way in HELL that I am "helping my [adolescent] kids to have sex," [b]safely or otherwise. Period. No way. It's inappropriate and that's not my role as a parent.[/b]

Even if they were grown adults, it would be grossly inappropriate for me to "help them" have sex. You people are too enmeshed and entangled with your sons. You have an Oedipal complex and it's sick.

Again: If you as a parent need to supply your kids and aid them in having sex, I would argue that they are not mature and responsible enough to be engaging in that kind of activity. Sex comes with REAL, ADULT consequences. You can't shield them from that even though you think you're doing something great by supplying your son with condoms and facilitating the hook-ups by closing the door behind you and turning off the lights so your teenage son can bang his girlfriend in your living room.[/quote]

In the 90's my mom took me to get BCP when I was 16 and had a long term boyfriend.  She actively helped me choose a path to be safe.  It changed our relationship so much for the better.  It really made me realize it wasn't me against my mom all the time.

But reading your write up about you thinking suppling birth control to your teens mean you are asking them to have sex in your living room or overly involved in their personal lives, just shows how ridiculous and old-fashion, and completely naive your parenting thought process is.  It's sad, immature, and my way or the high way mentality.  Your kids will never communicate or feel safe with you.  [/quote]

That's nice. I had a great relationship with my parents and I didn't have to open up about my sex life for that to happen. I didn't have to tell them when I lost virginity nor was I reliant on them to supply me with birth control for me to feel close to them.[/quote]

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