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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like your son was parroting comments and sentiments you yourself had expressed. You invited someone to your home only to mock him and enlist your elementary school son in the process. That is no way to treat a guest. You owe him an apology. I suggest counseling to deal with your deep rooted latent hostility and anger towards your family. They’re all obviously fine with their living and support arrangements. You, on the other hand, are seething with rage. Please get help soon and stop attacking those who love you. [/quote]

DH and I are very careful to not talk in front of the kids about my brother. I think it was more that DS doesn't know any grown men without jobs, and was thinking out loud as he struggled to understand the situation. All he sees is my brother sitting or laying on the couch when he's here. He won't even play on the floor with the kids or go outside to draw with chalk on the driveway. Also, we don't invite my brother. My mother calls and announces she's "sending" him over. He used to try to bring dirty laundry thinking I'd do it for him. DH finally told him after the 4th or 5th time that was never going to happen. [/quote]

I don’t believe you. Seven year olds are not that obsessed with adult jobs, even in DC. You sound high pressure and anxiety ridden OP. I wouldn’t want to be your brother and I wouldn’t want to be your son![/quote]

Total DP and I have three kids, including 2 in that age range and can absolutely buy this happened naturally. My kids are trying to figure things out and ALWAYS notice someone who seems to be different. It's why there are stories of mortified parents talking about how their kid loudly asked why someone is fat. Kids point out differences and do not understand being polite to avoid hurt feelings. [/quote]

Those kids ask their parents. They don't up to fat person and say "Why are you fat?! Huh? Do you eat too much? Do you not exercise? Why are you so fat!?" OP is pretending her son carried on a cross examination of her brother and wouldn't let up for almost 2 minutes before she finally shut it down.[/quote]

Yeah but they very well might ask their UNCLE who is regularly at their house for overnights. I guess you just don't know many kids because 2 minutes is a short cross in the world of a curious elementary schooler[/quote]

Nope. Well mannered kids don't do this. Spoiled brats who have been raised to think their opinions are the most important things in the world and talking over, interrupting and interrogating adults is appropriate. Most of us just have to deal with questions from our own kids about unfamiliar things. If our kids actually went up to people to demand answers we would shut that down and apologize.[/quote]

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