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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP should explain to her son that some grown ups do not work for various reasons. Sometimes they are ill and cannot work. Sometimes they are not able to find s job. Oftentimes, grown ups in these situations do not want to talk about why they do not work, because it is a sensitive subject. OP's brother is not the only adult that does not work. It is a good lesson to teach her son not to pry about sensitive subjects.

She should then tell her parents and brother that she has used this as a learning opportunity for her son,.and that he understands now not to ask his uncle about his employment situation. If she wants. Or, she can say nothing since she doesn't seem to want a relatio ship with her brother, which is fair. Actually it is probably good so he knows not to expect her to take him in when their parents pass. Though it might be good to say this explicitly to him.[/quote]

OP, you need to say this explicitly to all 3 of them.

And be willing to hold the line if he inherits their estate and burns through it. He could wind up on the street.

Ideally a trust would be established and a conservator (NOT OP) could dole out money. And steps would be taken NOW to increase his independence and address whatever his issues are. Perhaps he could handle a retail job or Door Dash or similar?

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