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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a terrible lesson to teach her children. Keeping up with the joneses and materialism and bragging rights is more important than family. [/quote]

What a terrible lesson it would be to teach her children to give in to whims of controlling people when they are behaving selfishly. She is teaching them how to stand up for themselves.[/quote]

Inviting someone to Christmas is behaving selfishly? Welcome to planet DCUM. [/quote]

An invitation is nice. Pouting and whining and gossiping on DCUM when someone dares not to accept your family’s invitation is immature and reveals your desire to control. Welcome to the real world. [/quote]

PP said it would be a terrible lesson to give in to people behaving selfishly. How would SIL and her kids know what has been posted here (after the fact). It is bizarre how posters get bent out of shape at the idea a grandmother is upset she won't be seeing her grandchildren on Christmas anymore. Anywhere else (except reddit) people would be reacting like humans. [/quote]

OP’s desire to control and her seething with jealousy over SIL’s wealth and her close ties to her own family no doubt carry over into real life. No doubt SIL, OP’s brother and their kids have all picked up on SIL’s resentment, bitterness, jealousy, and my-way-or-the-highway attitude. OP’s brother clearly doesn’t care about having a relationship with his sister, and no wonder. She’s a pill. [/quote]

Maybe I missed it but why the assumption SIL is wealthy or wealthier than OP?[/quote]

Op's disdainful reference to the private school culture.[/quote]

I am a private school parent and an element of private school culture is a lot of travel, vacation homes, and cliquish families taking trips as a big group. There is an undercurrent of pressure to participate and ([i]keep up with the Joneses[/i]).[/quote]

DP here. As much as I am sometimes tempted to move my kids to private school, the above is the reason I won't do it. [/quote]

Ehh, my kids public school has this as well. It is not limited to private schools, it is everywhere. And you don’t have to participate. [/quote]

+1. Abandoning your family and traditions so you can have social media travel content makes you an insecure freakin' loser.[/quote]

Nah, I didn't even like my family traditions. It would make me a loser to continue to participate in something I don't like year after year instead of carving my own path with something I do like.  I'm team SIL.  My family gets together for craziness every Christmas and I take my kids skiing with my husband.  I prefer it and think my kids do too!  Sure it bothers my family, but they don't listen to what I want to do when I'm with them, so I go my own way now.[/quote]

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