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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Raising kids has always been difficult and lots of work.  Difference is whereas people in the old days knew they needed kids (to support them in old age, to have family support in general), people today don't think they need kids anymore.  They think because they have their degrees and hobbies and friends, they don't need family or kids anymore.  There is an argument that the bigger the govt safety net, the less people think they need family (and kids).  So while kids have always been a tremendous sacrifice, the cost analysis just isn't there anymore.

Caveat that i'm talking about millennials in general. On individual level, I recognize many would love to have kids but just never found the right partner.  But as a generation, if enough people feel like they can be comfortable and happy and self sufficient without family, then the rate of coupling/marriage will go down. [/quote]

I am the poster who argued that people are just spoiled nowadays. One of the issues is also wanting a perfect partner who doesn’t really exist.
Again, we as a contemporary US society have moved very far from common sense. Just take a decent guy who isn’t a douche and is reasonably responsible and have family with him. Get coupled in college and engaged soon after and marry and start having kids by 30-32. Yet, people insist on complicating the obvious basic needs and common sense rules. [/quote]

Because they don't need to anymore.  There is no pressure forcing them to settle down (and by them I don't just mean women, i also mean men, it is a problem across both genders). [/quote]

Idk. I feel the opposite is true. Every single guy I know doesn’t want kids and feels the single women in their late 20s/early 30s are somewhat baby crazy. These are fairly successful guys and feel like they’re just viewed as a means to an end when they speak to these women. [/quote]

Men need to stop imagining they are some prizes and understand that yes, both men and women are means to an end if you like - they are partners in procreation, essentially. 
The only time you get unconditional love is when you are a baby. Some babies aren’t even that lucky.
Time to grow up and realize that life isn’t about love and other fantasies - it’s about being good reliable partners. If there is also love - perfect! [/quote]

Women don’t need men to procreate.[/quote]

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