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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had my second child earlier this year and I’m really feeling the pull to stay at home, mostly because I’m not in love with my job and our home life feels so hectic all the time because my husband and I both have those stereotypical “very busy” jobs.  (I know this won’t be popular but we would keep our nanny for a while so I would have time to devote to household things other than just childcare, so I do think staying home would improve how smoothly our lives run vs. how it is now.)

Anyways, I know there are lots of women who always post “don’t stay at home, your husband might leave you and you won’t be able to support yourself!” Which I hear and I do consider that risk.

But posting this in the money/finances section because I would really like to hear from anyone who ended up regretting staying at home because financial problems became an issue later on (not due to divorce).  This is my main fear in making the decision.

Or if everything worked out for you and your partner financially and you are very glad you decided to stay at home, please share as well![/quote]

Op, I’m 50. I stayed home when my kids were young but I always had a plan for how I’d return when I was ready. Some was financial fear, some was more existential identity crisis stuff. I was home for about 7 years but took classes and eventually got a part time job in a field that worked with my life. When they were older, I went back full time because I got a second burst of ambition that was mostly latent/gone when my kids were young. As it turned out, I didn’t need the money, as my husband and I didn’t divorce and his income went up through the years. But looking back, I’m glad I took time off then and glad I propped the door open for a return later. You can’t do it all, all at once. You also don’t have a magical crystal ball, but I haven’t second guessed the decision to stay home.[/quote]

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