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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The care.com etc is such a red herring.

No one is obligated to go to a wedding other than the bride, groom, officiant and two witnesses.

No one else is required to show up. Hosts can make it easier in hopes of maximizing who can attend or harder in hopes of minimizing the list.[/quote]

I don’t think that anyone is saying that Op is obligated to go.  Just that BIL isn’t a horrific monster who doesn’t care about his children just because he wants to hire a babysitter so he can go to the wedding.   [/quote]

I think BIL hiring a sitter is fine. MIL expecting that *OP* will be the sitter is incredibly presumptuous and disrespectful. BIL assuming that *OP* has arrangements he can freeload on is pretty presumptuous as well but not monstrous.[/quote]

Your post is mostly correct but op indicated BIL is annoyed at them for not going along with his plan. It wasn't just that op was voluntold to be the babysitter.

BIL is TA because he was annoyed that op and her dh would not agree to go along with his plans of hiring  a local babysitter and letting that stranger watch all their kids at a rental. Op and dh didn't want to go along with this plan but he is stiff free to continue on his merry way and find a rental and a sitter himself but nope. He is a jerk who was expecting them to take care of all of this and he would just dump his kids.

Bil and mil ATA.[/quote]

If the BIL wanted to share a sitter with OP’s kids, he should have no problem getting his own sitter.

Dh and I rarely went anywhere alone when kids were 1 and 3. The only person who ever watched our kids was our nanny or our parents.[/quote]

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