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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So many self centered people here.  Me me me....  My reduced share of money, my reduced quality of time with dad, and my kids' reduced share of money from grandpa...

You are not entitled to anything.  How about your father's life and happiness?  You father has done his share of taking care of you.  Are you going to take care of your father when he needs care?  [/quote]

Me me me

Why are 2nd wives do selfish.

Denying him time with his kids fishing and golfing and spending weekends at sports events.

How about his happiness? Instead he’s changing diapers and watching kids lol v shoes. So sad.

Why do you need a man to support you, support yourself.

Yes adults take care of their parents when they need care, you seriously over estimate your mental and physical ability as an old woman. Your ability to move a man from bed to chair with your frail 70 yo body.[/quote]

No marriage with young kids goes well where one parent goes fishing and golfing while the other takes care of toddlers.  If it’s a one-off thing, okay. If it’s a regular thing. The souse doing the heavy lifting with the little kids will grow to hate the one who’s out recreating. [/quote]

Oh FFS. It's not like he's out having fun. Ideally a man in this situation would make the time to be a good, nice, normal parent to his adult children, at the expense of his own recreational activities.  Look, young adult children can be time-consuming! Even if you're *only* seeing them for major life events and never just for a visit, it can be a lot. There's college graduation, then there's masters or JD graduation. There's a wedding. Maybe an engagement dinner to meet the parents (nobody's asking you to pay, just be present). Maybe they'll buy a house and that's something they'll want you to see. Then there's a baby, got to spend time with the baby, then there's another baby. There could be health problems at any age, and they might-- I know it sounds crazy-- want their parents to take an interest in them.  And if you have two or three adult children, it's even more. There's basically a major life event once a year, for someone-- and that's if everything goes well! If things don't go well, it could be much, much more time-consuming. This stuff might be enjoyable, but it isn't recreation. It's called "being a family"-- but if you're someone who doesn't think of your DH's children as family, I can see why you wouldn't like it.

Do you think your children won't have these events in their lives when they are young adults?  Come on.[/quote]

All of this ^^^^[/quote]

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