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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP there are lots of people on this board who simply hate greek life and can't imagine why anyone would do it. Got news for you, many of them don't even have kids in college and once they do, their kid may well be interested themselves. Why? because it's a way to make a large college smaller, to find "your people" which we are always talking about on this board. It's much easier to find your people in a group of 200 sorority sisters, as opposed to 15,000 under grads.

It's also just fun. They have an active social life, lots of parties and activities including charity events, and there are lots of leadership opportunities.

And again, there is a huge emphasis on diversity in greek life these days. These are not white blond girls anymore, though I can't speak for the SEC schools. My DDs house represents every ethnicity on campus and is a home for all their members, from the studious to the party girl and everyone in between.  She has met a group of girls that she really enjoys being around (especially the older girls) and never would have met them had it not been for her sorority.

In reality, it's not much different than any other social club or even sports, or academic etc. Yes the rush process is tough, and that's because there are SO many people interested. When you have 15 houses and a thousand people interested, you are going to have to have a selection process.  [/quote]

Actually, my kids have always steered clear of groups and organizations that cause drama, treat people unfairly, and judge others based on superficial traits.  They have done this since ES, when they quickly realized the Queen Bees were downright mean to many kids and excluded them and made fun of them.  While my kid was not excluded, they were smart enough to realize this was wrong and didn't join those groups.  Similarly in MS and HS, steered clear of the "mean girls" and "popular crowd" where your status could change daily.  She watched a good friend go thru it in HS and just supported her; watched the friend wander around alone at Homecoming because she'd been ditched by the "popular friends" yet wouldn't/couldn't talk to her other group of friends 4 of them for fear of being further excluded from the popular group.  My kid is nice enough to remain good friends with this girl, and just be there when she "has the time for her and that group of friends", but they all hurt watching the friend deal with the ups/downs/meanness of the popular group and wish she could see she doesn't have to do that to herself. 
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I wonder if your kids inherited your superiority complex?  The women in my sorority weren’t half as judgmental as you demonstrated yourself to be in one post.[/quote]

HA NP, I was JUST coming on here to say how the anti-greek people in this thread are some of the most judgemental people I have ever seen, with one heck of a superiority complex. [/quote]

As someone what was in a popular fraternity at a rich southern school, I’d call the anti-Greek people entirely rational.  My experience of Greek life was that it was abusive, exclusionary, sexually predatory, racist, and dangerously drug and alcohol fueled.  I have no problem with people judging Greek organizations. [/quote]

So with your two posts you have made PP's point.  You are anti-Greek, judgmental and one heck of a superiority complex.  Got it.[/quote]

And here’s the gaslighting I mentioned.  I say “I experienced racist, criminal, sexually predatory behavior.”  PP responds “You have a superiority complex.”

Thanks for proving my point. [/quote]

Then you should have reported them to the proper authorities.  You could have experienced all of that and done the right thing.  You being called judgmental and told you have a superiority complex is from you inferring that labeling the whole based off of your experience is acceptable, it is not.  In the end, you accepted the bid, stayed long enough to experience bad things which says a lot about you and your decision making.[/quote]

[b]Bless your heart.  You’re working SO hard here.

Meanwhile, in the real world, actual adults are able to look at the statistics of sexual violence, alcohol poisoning and disciplinary action against fraternities on college campuses big and small, private and public, nationwide and draw their own conclusions. [/quote]
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NP-Correct and after drawing your own conclusions choose to join or not.  PP stated the obvious, if there was criminal activity observed it should have been reported just like any other crime in "the real world."  The ant-Greek contingent here seems to be the one's banging their head against a wall. I have no say one way or the other because I have no experience but it is obvious both sides are entrenched in their beliefs so why doesn't everyone just move on? [/quote]

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