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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???[/quote]

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t. [/quote]

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him? [/quote]

The sister doesn't even hold a job!  [/quote]

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting? [/quote]

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?[/quote]

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue. [/quote]

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.  :roll: [/quote]

This forum is full of unhappy trolls who see themselves in the scheming freeloader sister. [i]Just be passive, let a sibling steal a million dollars from you. No big deal[/i]. Yeah, right.[/quote]

Nobody is stealing ANYTHING from her. Not one cent of it is her money, nor is she entitled to it.[/quote]

This. Right. Here. All of you people acting like you are owed your parents' money--now or in the future--are gross.

Keep in mind that your parents have every right to do with their money and property as they please, including donating it all to charity or leaving it to a cat. Literally, a cat.[/quote]

This.  Reminds me I need to set up a will to provide a stipend for my cats.

But seriously, just ask your dad whether he intends on leaving the house to all three of you or just your sister.  It’s really not your business but I feel like given all the drama it’s the easiest way to move on.  My parents used to talk about inheritance when we were younger until we pointed out how much elder care costs and that we’d prefer they just focus on funding their own end of life, and that’d be the best inheritance gift we could get.[/quote]

Oh stop everyone.

A parent who prefers leaving their estate to a pet rather than their own children is nasty.

And you confuse rights with what is someone's business.  While a parent has every legal right to draft a will of their choosing, keeping it secret from your own children is highly weird and mean spirited, unless there is a child with addiction issues or estrangement or something of that sort.  I have a copy of my mother's will and trust, which is the normal way that works.  She doesn't play games.[/quote]

Then why doesn’t OP just talk to the dad about it?[/quote]

I’m wondering if OP is not as close to dad, and is afraid of his answer if she brings it up. As a parent, it would really bother me to hear one child talk about another in the disparaging way OP speaks of her sister. I wonder if she runs her tongue in front of dad, and he doesn’t like it, so she can’t talk to him about these things. [/quote]

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