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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I are both professionals, we make similar salaries and share the child care and household duties evenly. She would be terribly unhappy without her career and is a highly skilled professional. I support her and her career just as she supports me in mine. There are certainly some men who deep down just want a wife barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, but most of us have evolved beyond that.[/quote]

[b]having kids and taking care of a house is work.[/b] Anyone can see that which is why there are all these arguments. The problem is when there is still that work to do with the kids and a house and the man runs off with the money. Money, safety, and raising kids can't be divorced from each other.[/quote]

Yep - WOH mom here. It is hard, never ending, thankless work. This is why I think it's so unfair when Hs leave and the courts decide that a SAHM has max 2 years to get on her feet and start making $$$. Good luck trying to find a position that can allows survival in DC area after being out of work for 10+ years. What if you have teenagers and you want them to stay in the same schools? You need at least 3.5K to rent an old rancher in McLean High School.  [/quote]

Lol. "Your honor, I know my financial situation is going to deteriorate but I still deserve, at a minimum, to live in one of the most expensive ZIP Codes in the country!"[/quote]

It's for the kids, not her. Do you want the children to change schools in the middle of high school? And this point is very important to the question. Everyone says that for high income, which is 900K+ in DC area, doesn't matter, but for the everyday Joe in DC area this is important. IMO, if you want your wife to SAH, make sure you have the resources to maintain the same standard of living [b]for the kids[/b], in case the marriage dissolves. Let her keep the house so the kids can stay in the same schools and same neighborhood and make sure you can still pay the mortgage and your rental apartment, contribute to 529 etc. So many families barely maintain their living and, when a divorce happens, the kids suffer the most financially. [/quote]

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