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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hate? Really? Where do you see hate? I have pity! I don't hate anybody... [b]I just feel really sorry for those who believe that paying someone (very very little) to give their children what we, parents, do for free and out of love is the best they can do.[/b] Some of you even said that money was more important! How terrible![/quote]

You know, it's funny.  You have pity for us, but I have a lot of pity for you and your children.  While I have a lot of respect for some SAHM's, you are not one of them.  You teach your children a very black-and-white, very 1950's regressive attitude that I think limits them.  Do you have any daughters?  You are teaching them that even if they have a career that they enjoy, that should they choose to have children, they will be expected to give up everything in order to stay at home.  You may have a career that is easy to stop and restart in 5-10 years, but your daughter(s) may not.  They have have a career that once stopped, will be difficult to restart and if they choose to return to the work force that they'll have to change careers.  While you may not intend to pass this attitude on, your completely close-minded judgmental attitude ensures that your daughters will feel guilty making any choice but the one that you chose.  And if you have boys, you'll teach them that this the right way.  That will affect not just your children, but your daughter-in-laws who will feel trapped into your choices by your sons who cannot imagine it any other way.

Although I only have sons, I will teach them to be open-minded and to be equal partners with their spouses.  I want them to make the best decisions for their families, and not insist on their one "right way" and jeopardize their marriages over some sort of antiquated mentality that mothers should SAH and only mothers should.  I have several friends who have a SAHD and they have some wonderful children raised well.  I know many friends with well adjusted, good kids that have been in daycare since a young age.  Different things work for different families and I have the respect for my friends who made decisions based on their circumstances and I respect that they made the best decision for their family.  Period.  No qualifiers, no judgments.

Your choices may be best for you and your family, and may be best for many, but they are not best for all.  Why you think that you know more about our families and what is best for us when you are just some anonymous entity that has never met us, know nothing about our careers and families, is beyond me.[/quote]

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