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So what? Sounds like MIL was concerned. How does she know if this is normal? She might have been worried the baby was getting sick, or was uncomfortable in the house and maybe it was too warm or too cold and maybe she could adjust the thermostat? They were in her house and she probably feels responsible and bad that maybe the baby is having a rough time and she wanted to know if they needed anything. It doesn't make her an evil witch trying to steal the baby away and engage in a power struggle. There are other ways to look at it which you seem incapable of doing.[/quote]

I’m not the poster you quoted. And I think if this had happened once, or twice, that you might be right and she might have felt responsible. It’s the part where she repeatedly ignores their requests that makes me skeptical of this theory.  The benefit of the doubt can only extend for so long.

Also; it would make me feel like my MIL (or mother) couldn’t be trusted with instructions, so I would be less likely to leave the baby in her care. Like if she can’t remember “please don’t disturb us at night, we have it under control” how is she going to remember that Larlo has a dangerous nut allergy?[/quote]

Maybe she would be that type of babysitter, but you can cross that bridge when you get to it. MIL hasn't had a baby in the house in a very long time, assuming this is the first grandchild. She probably totally forgot what it's like to have a baby up and crying every night. Probably the visit didn't go the way she hoped either. So, you can either make adjustments and go about it differently next time or burn all the bridges and cut off that side of the family. Which sounds more rational?[/quote]

But they are making adjustments. They’re not staying with someone who can’t be courteous and respectful. That’s...very rational. [/quote]

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