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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, you have the conversation so you can live an honest life and so your spouse knows the truth of their own life.  This could go bad in so many ways.  What if the DH of his AP finds out and goes crazy?  What if AP is a co-worker and it risks the cheater's job if discovered?  If his own kids find out, it is very likely to impact his relationship with them . . . kids normally would be protective of their mom in this situation.  This would affect how his own family of origin, inlaws, friends, coworkers, neighbors will see him - but he knows this, and is selfish, so it's better for him to sneak around and hope no one finds out.  [/quote]

Exactly all of those consequences happened to my cheating ex and I told his AP’s husband as well.  BAM!  A name will have to come out.  It will come out or you will go directly to divorce kind of how closure works in marriage counseling. They make you say who and give spouse opportunity to talk to AP.  You wouldn’t do that to your AP (tell her spouse) [b]your wife might not feel the same and want that whore to face the sane things she is going through[/b], not get off easy, unharmed.[/quote]Oh now she is a whore?  Nice.  And what exactly do you think my W is "going through?"  She isn't in any kind of pain all through this.  She is blissfully unaware and happy I no longer broach the subject of sex.

Yes, any or all of those terrible things could happen to me, if I was dumb enough to get caught. Thanks for opening my eyes.  I'll be sure to be ever vigilant and careful.[/quote]

I am not one of the women that have argued with you until now.  I only have one question for you.  I ask it without judgment or castigation, I only want your sincere prognosis.

What do you think would happen if your wife found out, either from you or in some other way? What do you think she would say or do?[/quote]

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