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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can say “I take care of my kids full time” as that is a counterpart for “I work full time”. Children need full-time care. That is a fact. That care can be provided by a parent, nanny, daycare, elementary school, karate class, etc.

Btw, “parenting” is not something that needs to happen 24/7.[/quote]

How about working moms just stop getting so triggered about other women’s choices?

I’m not going to twist myself into pretzels trying to find a way to describe being home with  my kids that doesn’t offend you. I’m also not going the self deprecating route and saying “I’m unemployed” just to placate you. Get over yourself. [/quote]

Most working moms don't want to be working as much as they do. They want to spend more time with their children, and silently resent the fact that there are other moms out there who do.[/quote]

Yeah most working moms don’t really have a choice to not work, without jeopardizing financial security of their families. My own dad got laid off at 50, never found another job, and my mom went back to work as a dental hygienist despite crippling migraines and arthritis to support us. 
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Disagree. I could easily quit. We could downsize from our $1.7m close-in home to a modest $1m one a little further out. We could do fewer and less luxe vacations. We could set aside a little less for their future nest eggs. Retirement and college tuition would still be perfectly fine.

I work because I enjoy using my analytical and problem-solving skills, because DH and I have enough seniority and flexibility to spend time with our kids, and because we have enough family and hired help to make everything flow smoothly. Also I don’t want my self-worth to be fully tied to the accomplishments of my children, and I could see that happening if I didn’t have anything outside them to occupy my time.[/quote]

+1  I could have written this.  I choose to work.  So do my friends.[/quote]

Oh, come on, though. Surely both of you PPs realize that your lives are nowhere near the reality for most Americans.[/quote]

This isn't the point, though.  Read the post that was responded to where the PP said most working moms don't want to be working and they silently resent stay at home moms.  My data sample is certainly not indicative of most of America, and I never said it was, but acting like all working moms resent stay at home moms is pernicious. [/quote]

Ok, well I would choose to not work if I could.  I've been a working mom my whole parenthood and I didn't marry a high earner (though neither did he  :wink:) so financially I have to work.  Also my husband would choose not to work either, but we both like a roof over our heads, food in our stomachs, and clothes on our kids, so...

But, I don't agree either that most working women resent SAHs.  I'm sure some do, but most adults realize there are pros and cons to each situation and that we're doing our best in any given moment or situation.[/quote]

PP here and I wish I could work *less* for sure. 25 hours a week would be awesome (I currently work 40-45). That would give me enough time to catch up on errands and relax! However, there aren’t many part-time jobs in my field, so the choice is to either work or not work. While either would be fine financially, I would hate not working, so I continue to work.[/quote]

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