Reply to Found nude pics on DHs phone

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Found nude pics on DHs phone "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote]You have three options :

1. Divorce. He showed his colors

2. Stay and teach that him you won’t tolerate this behavior. Not sure how you’d do that.

3. Stay and put up with more cheating

Without kids i would choose #1. I am married to someone similar and regret not leaving.

With kids I would choose number 1 (and did). Why does being married mean I have to accept emotional abuse? Why would anyone think growing up in a house where the primary adult relationship is based on tolerance of serious lies is a healthy family environment?

It was better for me and my kids to get away from the crazy.

Because it could be a phase for him. There is more to marriage than fidelity. Your kids are going to be shuttled between houses for years. You’ll lose assets. You won’t have someone to grow old with. There are many reasons women and men stay with a cheater.

I 100% agree with the poster who picked #1, for the same reasons they did. To the person who says it's a "phase", no it's not. Someone who lives a double life, lies to the people he claims to love most in the world, puts their health at risk (STDs), takes time and money away from his family, rationalizes all of it as being the spouses fault.....that's not a phase. That's his true character coming through loud and clear. That's emotional abuse at the very least. No one should have to put up with that. I'd much rather lose assets and be alone than be with an immoral person with no honor or integrity.[/quote]

For some people, infidelity is a grave and selfish mistake that they acknowledge and work through and can get past. It takes a tremendous amount of self reflection, work and character to do so, and it requires a tremendous amount of patience and resilience on the part of the cheated on spouse. For others, infidelity is an insight into someone's true nature. Unfortunately, its sometimes very hard to know which one is which, and deciding to give it a shot requires taking a certain amount of risk, but there's risk as well in divorcing.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics