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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This would not bother me at all. If I like you, and we connect as friends, then I want to hang out with you regardless of what kind of house you have. [/quote]

Same. Though I can’t imagine how I would meet someone with your kind of wealth.  When I was in college I was friends with a very wealthy girl (her parents owned several restaurants in a big city) and the only time our friendship was awkward was when she wanted to go to the big sale at Neiman Marcus and I just couldn’t spend that kind of money, sale or not.  Other than that, we had a great time together.[/quote]

For me, and apparently many others on here, it's not about OPs wealth, specifically.  Depending on where you are in the country, a 15,000 sq ft house may be achievable for many PPs here.  We just wouldn't choose to spend our money that way.  How people choose to spend their money says a lot more to me about them than the fact that they have that money.[/quote]

As for me, I’m feel that way if you are a judgy byotch. [/quote]

PP who commented on how I choose to spend my money.  Are we supposed to be totally indiscriminate in who we hang out with? How are you supposed to determine who you want to be friends with? Doesn't personal judgment play into every decision we make?  Why is "she has good judgment" a complement but "don't be so judgy" a justifiable insult?  I choose my friends based on a combination of things, including sense of humor, intellectual awareness, a general values including (but not limited to) our role as stewards of the earth, openness to other cultures and new experiences, etc etc.    Sure, I value a tolerance for beliefs other than my own, and I'm open to a good debate and like to think I'm capable of having my mind changed, but I haven't seen anything in these 21 pages -- and I have read every entry! -- that has alerted me to a possible alternative for the scenario OP has laid out that might nudge my thinking on this issue.   As I wrote before, in my personal experience, how people send their money has turned out to be a pretty good marker in the longer-term sustainability of our friendship.  So I judge people on that.[/quote]

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