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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think most PPs are being ridiculous, [b]especially the arguments about values and how spending money on a large house reflects those values. Each family makes different decisions about how to spend their $$. If OP values a large house, I don't see that as significantly different that spending money on a country club, expensive vacations, private school, nanny with all kids in elementary school, or other luxury items.[/b]

OP, I would echo other PPs who say look beyond your house for reasons you don't have friends, or maybe try to look for friends more broadly - you won't get along with everyone just because you are both SAHMs with young kids. I have probably hosted playdates with over 50 families over the past 2.5 years. We have a nice circle of 6-8 families I am now friends with the moms. You just have to keep putting yourself out there to find other parents you get along with.

For example, we have 2 friends with 12,000 sqft houses inside the beltway in Bethesda. Our house is average-sized at 2300 sqft. I reciprocate play dates with both of these families - in fact, I enjoy entertaining, so we host play dates most than they do. That being said, with one of those families, the mother is not interested in being friends and I mostly interact with the nanny. We have 2 kids the same ages, but the mother is clearly living a very different life than me, and we just don't connect. With the other mother, we get along just fine, and try to hang out regularly.

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The thing is -- those things would not be a reflection of what I value.  So I am not sure I would have much in common with OP.  But you never know I suppose.[/quote]

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