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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lawyer would be able to give good advice about whether or not there would be tax implications. There might not be any, depending on the facts of the situation. They should all be talking to lawyers.

We don't really know that it was Thelma's idea to leave the house to Larla. And it does sound like a lot of the family's wealth was generated by Thelma's husband's hard work. I bet his pay checks and maybe his own physical labor were used over the years for repairs and general upkeep of the family home. He wasn't sitting around doing nothing all day.

And yes, how I feel surely is irrelevant to Larla, and I mentioned above that I didn't think it was. However, I do think a lot of people would feel uncomfortable about walking away with so much more of the family wealth than the actual immediate family of the deceased. I certainly would not want to live in that house under these circumstances, I just don't think I'd be able to feel happy there.[/quote]

1) She is actual family. Her godmother is also her aunt.
2) You really have no reason to doubt the authenticity of the will, PP. You just want to believe that someone is up to no good. That says a lot more about you than anyone in the situation.
3) It sounds to me like the family's wealth was generated BY THE FAMILY. Two adults who worked. One adult who brought significant assets to the marriage (a house and a bunch of money that they invested and added to AS A FAMILY). The husband predeceased Thelma, leaving the family estate to her. No one said he wasn't doing anything. He worked. But she was the one who brought the initial money and the house to the marriage. If anything, it sounds to me like the husband simply contributed to wealth that his wife brought to the marriage.
4) I would feel uncomfortable kicking my cousin out of the house in these circumstances, but I would still do it. I would try to find a solution for her, but based on everything we've heard about her history and general personality, I don't think she goes quietly. In any case, your feelings about the situation are clearly clouding your ability to even think of it objectively. Did someone "steal" your inheritance, PP? Is that why you're taking this so personally?[/quote]

The previous post says "actual immediate family." While Larla is actual family, in that Thelma was her great aunt, she was not immediate family. Immediate family is parents, children, grandparents/children. Larla is a more distant relative and is not in Thelma's direct line because she is Thelma's sister's grandchild. Larla and Marys father are first cousins, Mary and Larla are first cousins, once removed.

Much of the  wealth was generated by the mother and father together. Thelma and her husband sound like a hard working couple who were careful with their money. Sure,it helped to start off with the house, but they would have done well without it because of their own hard work and thriftiness. Would the father have wanted the bulk of what he worked for to go to a distant relative rather than his own children?

I'm not sure why you think anyone with an opinion about a legal situation must have a personal reason for having that opinion. Do you only have opinions about situations you have been personally involved in? 
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