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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I worked in a psych hospital and saw a fair number of deaf people there. It was interesting how many emotional issues they have. I am no expert, but I would not venture into a relationship with a deaf person.
Blind is different to me. Perhaps because I was nearly blind before my lasik, and I can relate. 
The main issue for me would be what would this man be like if I were the disabled one. 
At the same time I would have a lot of trouble trusting my own husband if I knew he would not have given me a chance if I were in a wheel chair. It is best that we (me and DH) not have that discussion.

To the pp with the deaf husband. You seemed to have given it your best. You summarized it very well. [/quote]

How did it differ from hearing people with emotional issues? Or how did it differ from the large numbers of deaf people who do not have issues at all?

"I saw some deaf people in a psych hospital" does not equate to "deaf people have a lot of issues". Just pointing that out.

As for the marriage issue - if the hearing partner suddenly becomes the interpreter/help/assistant that is where problems begin. I know many deaf-deaf and deaf-hearing marriages that are successful. As a hearing person who is an ASL/English bilingual I've rarely had any of my friends ask me to interpret and I'm not expected to. They are able to communicate on their own. I can count the amount of times I've done some rudimentary interpreting in a pinch on one hand. Even the times I've gone to doctor's appointments with one of my friends who is a Deaf mom and her young Deaf children she won't let me interpret as she can communicate with the doctors on her own. I'm a friend, not an interpreter or a personal assistant. It's important for people to recognize and respect that - and it's also important that we don't think that anyone who is considered "disabled" automatically needs help 24/7. [/quote]

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