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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, what happens when he's out of school and trying to build a practice? I see this as just the beginning of a never ending train of you doing 100% of everything for your family and your kids and your resentment will just grow.[/quote]

THis is a good point.  My SIL graduated from her dental specialty a year ago, and she's working insane hours to establish herself.  They don't have kids yet, and I don't really know how they would manage if they did.

But OP is in the situation she's in, and it's her DH's dream to be a dentist.  So they need to find a way to do this.  But it can't be that OP takes on everything while DH only pursues his dream.  If a parent wants to be in an intense educational program while you have kids, both parents need to compromise and figure out how to make it work.  DH may even find that having responsibilities outside of his school makes him a more disciplined student (I know a lot of student-athletes from college who were like this).  Basically, you need to find the right division of labor that works for your particular situation and feels good for both of you.

And I'm not ruling out the possibility that for a year or two OP takes on an unreasonable amount of slack.  Some programs are classroom-intensive for a couple of years before being clincally-intensive.  For students who don't do as well with book-learning, the first years can be tough...but they will get easier when the program becomes more hands-on.[/quote]

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