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OP,

Lots of things seem off in your post:

1. First, even if it may be legal, it's unethical to use a board position to give an advantage to a family member. As board members, my colleagues and I are careful to avoid even the appearance of impropriety.

2. You claim to follow your daughter's and grandson's movements on FB, but do you spend time communicating constructively on the important issues? Did you actually sit down and discuss the situation frankly, as in: "we are hoping to get you a full ride scholarship to UMD, do you want to do your part in this, or shall we scrap those plans?" However immoral such an abuse of your husband's position that may have been, it would have been a good idea to be clear on your grandson's participation beforehand. If he said we would do it, then reneged, you now know not to help him anymore. If he was ambivalent, the current situation should not come as a surprise.
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There's nothing unethical. This is a local private scholarship given to qualified children of friends and family year in year out. Some years they don't even get enough qualified kids to apply so it carries over.

Yes, they reneged and now I wonder if we didn't articulate the generosity of the scholarship. It's puzzling, especially when we see him now interested in less competitive colleges which will cost them serious loans to attend, if they even qualify to take out loans.[/quote]

Pp you quoted. In that case, pick up the phone, and explain to your grandson how much money this was and how it could have helped him, and the effort your husband went to obtain it for him. And if ever they ask you for money for something else, politely decline. You're done here.
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